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Post by Buddy Ghee on Oct 31, 2010 0:58:05 GMT -5
Some relationship advice. So this girl and I have had some sort of passive admiration thing going on for a while. I like her, she likes me. We get the same feelings around each other. Considering I'm a guy who second guesses himself all the time, the fact that I'm so certain definitely says something about her. I've put my mind to it a few times before that I was going to make my move, but something always stopped me from doing it. It's to the point that I think she might be slowly losing interest in me.
The one thing stopping me is that she's already in a relationship. Apparently, even though he's a jackass, she's still going around with him. She never mentioned him to me... In fact, she seemed to be fighting tooth and nail to make sure I didn't know he existed. I've heard her complain about him a lot to her friends. He's overreactive, confrontational, and rough. She came to school with a bruise that looked like a surgical scar. The fact that they're together still is astounding.
The thing is, I have to do something fast. Like within this next week fast. I don't feel right coming to you guys for it, but what do you think?
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Post by El Shadowo on Oct 31, 2010 5:17:35 GMT -5
I may not be te love guru, so please take the following with just a pinch of salt in terms of whether its ood advice or not. But personally, I think there's two issues here being driven into one, and you need to seperate them. As I see it, the problems are...
1. You like her.
2. She has an abusive boyfriend.
My thoughts would be you shouldn't try and deal with both issues at the same time. Rather, focus on the fact she is in an abusive relationship, and offer to be her friend. Offer her advice and a chance to talk to someone, without nessecarily making it sound like you want to be her boyfriend or anything.
The thing is, realise there's probably a good reason they are still together, and that no matter what you say, she may still decide to continue that relationship. I remember doing some stuff in psychology whereby it was said relationships are a balance of pros and cons. You weigh them up and if the pros outweight the cons, no matter how bad those cons are, you will stick with the person. It could just be she feels that if she loses that relationship, she'll never find another. It could be that there's a side to him you don't see. Regardless, be warned that if you confront her about that relationship, she may well end up choosing him over you. It's a tricky route to go down and one which requires a lot of careful consideration.
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Post by Kim Jong CP on Oct 31, 2010 11:21:41 GMT -5
Just the intro
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On a more serious note, if she's with the guy it's for a reason. I wouldn't try and do something rash - mainly for your own safety. If this guy has no problem beating the girl 'round, what'll stop him from doin' anythin' to ya? Also, it might not be that he beats her. I know I'm a general ass-hole, definately the last two and since I'm assuming the fact that he's 'round the same age as you, the over-reactive bit is just a fact of life at that age.
The best thing you can do is stay 'available' without ending up 'friend-zoned' be supportive, but if another opportunity comes along take it. Be her friend because if she then realizes you're what she wants, she'll make a move - unless your in high school and this guy is in the pop-clique at which point your fucked. High-school is about status (something I profited from at the start) and not about real happiness. A lot of bitches seem to think that being popular is equivalent to true happiness, but they end up fuckin' miserable - and often with low self-esteem if it ends bad.
Just my take.
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Post by Buddy Ghee on Oct 31, 2010 12:01:38 GMT -5
He doesn't smack her around, but he doesn't have regard for her safety. I should've been more clear about that. He accidentally threw her into a wall.
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Post by El Shadowo on Oct 31, 2010 12:16:46 GMT -5
How does one "accidently" throw someone into a wall exactly? I mean, I've had hugs which went wrong, but that sounds a tad extreme <_<
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Post by Buddy Ghee on Oct 31, 2010 12:49:08 GMT -5
How does one "accidently" throw someone into a wall exactly? I mean, I've had hugs which went wrong, but that sounds a tad extreme <_< Beats the hell out of me. |
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Post by Fallen Souls on Oct 31, 2010 21:47:27 GMT -5
Sounds more like he threw her into a wall, then apologized and said it was an accident. >.>
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Post by Buddy Ghee on Oct 31, 2010 22:59:40 GMT -5
Sounds more like he threw her into a wall, then apologized and said it was an accident. >.> Who knows? Still, it looked real nasty. When I say it looked like a surgical scar, I'm not joking. |
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Post by The Mainerishi on Oct 31, 2010 23:10:18 GMT -5
How does one "accidently" throw someone into a wall exactly? I mean, I've had hugs which went wrong, but that sounds a tad extreme <_< Beats the hell out of me. Mo' liek beats the hell out of her. TROLLOLOLOLOLOL. No but seriously I was in the same situation like three months ago. What will inevitably happen is that you'll man up, grow some balls and attract another girl with uber layers of confidence at which point she'll continue to suffer with this dickweed. Eventually she'll realize it's not worth it anymore and break up with him but by the time she does you'll have bagged yourself a hottie. |
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criminal
New Breed
Ohh that was ur girl... I thought i reconized her!!
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Post by criminal on Nov 1, 2010 11:04:42 GMT -5
This.
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Post by Silencio/The Dan on Nov 3, 2010 17:18:43 GMT -5
Tie her wrists and legs to your bed and rape the shit outta her.
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Post by Buddy Ghee on Nov 3, 2010 17:28:05 GMT -5
Tie her wrists and legs to your bed and rape the shit outta her. ... Okay. |
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criminal
New Breed
Ohh that was ur girl... I thought i reconized her!!
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Post by criminal on Nov 3, 2010 21:03:15 GMT -5
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Post by Claude LeBatard on Nov 4, 2010 15:34:55 GMT -5
Choo should do is take him out, ol' school. Get a brick and a piece of rope, tie the rope around the brick and hurl it at his head. Then when it makes contact pull the brick back towards you with the rope and the police are non the wiser. Girl is free, you can make mini buddy's
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Post by Buddy Ghee on Nov 4, 2010 18:49:14 GMT -5
Actually, from what I hear, she broke up. And judging by the context, she's going to try and get with me. *Rippin' and Tearin'.*
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