I Guess I'll Be The First

[Rena]

First of all, I care to wonder if this is much like the "urgency" board?

I have, really only one problem with a person in the Fed...and he knows who he is.

Bane. Well, let's start with my side. I was on MSN with him...and he started talking about how ugly he is, and all this stuff...putting himself down..and I simply asked him if he was depressed. He told me he was, and that he was on all these pills. I stopped talking to him and blocked him not long after that because nomatter what we talked about, he always had something bad to say to himself. I am a person who crowds myself with people that are self-confident and have a good self esteem level. I have never had to handle someone who was depressed, and I didnt know how to handle his constant verbal abuse to himself. I found it weird, and it made me uncomfortable for me to read what he had to say about himself (and it wasnt nice)...and so I blocked him. I found him weird...and he made me uncomfortable. Some may say it's a bitchy thing to do to block someone because they are depressed, but it's jsut that I dont know how to handle someone always telling me how ugly and stupid they are, when they arent. Im sorry Bane if I offended you, but I seriously cant stand it when someone is continually bashing themselves...it's just like when a skinny girl say "Oh Im fat" it gets on my nerves, and the first reaction to me is that I dont like them because they are too over-critical about themselves. You need to enjoy live, Bane...and not be too over-critical of yourself.

if anyone has any opinions on this, please, write back.

--Rena

[Wyvern]

Rena, you do have good intentions for what you are trying to get across, but let me explain something. Speaking from experience, I know that speaking to someone else about one's problems is very theraputic. It may annoy people sometimes when someone goes on about their problems and so forth, but it's best to try to listen. The amount of relief felt by an individual afflicted by depression is shown by the amount of therapists/conselors/psychologists in the world.

Now, I'm not saying you've done anything wrong, but I could easily understand how Bane could feel here, perhaps like someone he could reach out to has just slammed the door on him, preventing him from any type of release. Just a few moments here and there can make a difference in someone's life. Perhaps some is over-critical of themselves? My personal response to this, is so what? At least they care enough about how they portray themselves to others, showing they are affectionate in their own way. I suggest, no, encourage you to unblock him from your list. Try to talk to him for a few moments, but don't get frustrated with him. If he's talking to you, that obviously means he looks to you as someone who he feels can help him out, albeit indirectly.

And oh yeah, this is much like the urgency board, but it's primary function is to resolve conflicts that are of a more serious caliber.

[BK London]

Booyah.

[scrawn]

Well Rena, lucky for you Bane is no longer with the ACW. So now let's get on with our lives...